Extroverted Introverts: What are We?
I am certain that it seems really strange the term “Extroverted Introvert”. Never knew such a thing existed. Guess we all divide people in to two main categories mainly “Extroverts” and “Introverts”. There happen to be certain set of people who happen to two fall between both categories. At a particular time they are extroverts and the next minute they have switched to the introvert part.
Because of this nature, we end up confusing people. We all expect an introvert to be all too shy and reclusive. And one can be, but extroverted introverts also like to get out there and mix ‘n mingle. When they’re “on”, they are sociable and friendly. When they’re “off”, they disappear to recharge in solitude.
Even though one spends a lot of time introverting than following the crowd, people happen to see only the outgoing side. They don’t realize that one’s social batteries get drained very quickly.
During such circumstances, one has people wondering:
1) They must have done something to make us mad or sad in the end asking to ‘smile’ or ‘stop dulling’.
2) They assume that one hates them or they have offended one in a really bad way.
3) That one is silently judging them and the outcome is definitely not good.
Everyone around is just confused about one’s behavior. Well, there are 6 things to show that you are an ‘Extroverted Introvert’.
1) You need some alone time before and after socializing.
As earlier said, your social energy bar gets depleted on time. Some alone time before and after socializing helps one to recharge. If not give such time or enough time, one could feel, exhausted, irritable or even depressed.
2) You are very selective with your social calendar.
Knowing that one has much social energy, one still spends a lot of time deciding whether to go out or not. One is not always sure whether to go out or not.
3) You make new friends, but have trouble maintaining them.
When one is all social and all, one makes new friends which is good. Maintaining them is whole new different issue. One finds it hard to disperse a lot of energy between many people. Energy and love are kept for a select few, the true friends.
4) You want true connection. Small talks are not your thing.
One enjoys being with people, but not just any kind of socializing will do. One craves for meaningful conversations, and true connection. Small talks without true connection leaves one feeling empty. When deeply connected with another person, one begins to feel rejuvenated.
5) You are quiet in the crowd.
Though one likes being around people, you don’t feel the need to talk the whole time. Often, one is just happy to listen and observe. This is especially true in group conversations, where you never quite know when to chime in. One-on-one conversations are more one’s forte.
6) You always have an escape plan.
One of your worst fears is to be trapped at a party or where one is socializing. You know that once your social batteries start to run low, you’ll want to get out of there ASAP. Sometimes you flee so fast it’s as if you’re leaving a crime scene. Luckily, needing alone time is not a crime (no matter what our extrovert obsessed society tells you).
Does this sound like you?